Formerpeopleperson ( member #85478) posted at 11:25 PM on Wednesday, September 3rd, 2025
Was the voice a man who was with her?
Or just someone nearby?
It doesn’t matter.
The point is this: you immediately suspected the worst. Of course you did. And that’s her fault, not yours.
But this is the way your life is going to be with her. Every time she goes somewhere alone, every time she’s late from work, every time her phone chimes, you’re going to be miserable, stomach churning.
The trust is gone. She regrets ever marrying you. How will you ever restore the trust.
It’s no way to live.
Best wishes.
It’s never too late to live happily ever after
gr8ful ( member #58180) posted at 11:26 PM on Wednesday, September 3rd, 2025
In those moments (and there have been a few over the last year) I just want out. But later when she’s near me, and after I see her vulnerable and crying in front of our son, I just want to help fix whatever the problem is.
Have you considered whether you suffer from "white knight syndrome" in your IC? I was there for many years, so I get it. Such behavior is in reality harmful to the *both* of you.
alwayslove ( new member #86533) posted at 6:27 AM on Friday, September 5th, 2025
There’s no trust and, without it, no true love — trust is the foundation of love. It’s unfortunate that it’s been lost, and there can be no future together unless you both make the effort to rebuild it.
