Starant (original poster new member #87015) posted at 11:41 PM on Friday, March 20th, 2026
I know i really should divorce my WH because I have seen no consistent change. We have a 4 year old daughter and she is very attached to me. It gives me alot of anxiety that i wont see her for some of the week. I want to only allow him 1 - 2 days to see her, but i dont know if he will push back. This is probably the biggest thing holding me back. He doesn’t deserve to even see her, he ruined her family. How did anyone else with young children handle this.
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 12:55 AM on Saturday, March 21st, 2026
I remember when my daughter was that age, and she was super attached to me. There's no way she could've been with her dad 50/50 - he worked too much and never did her bath and bedtime routines. When I'd travel for work, my mom would look after her, so I get where you're coming from. Have you consulted with any attorneys to see if you're in a good position to ask for full custody?
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
Starant (original poster new member #87015) posted at 12:18 PM on Saturday, March 21st, 2026
I have her all nights of the week and he does the daycare drop off 3 x times a week. He looks after her 2 days of the week. I would need a reason like domestic abuse to get full custody. Next year when she starts school i dont know if he will argue for another full day or one night with her. I dont trust his caring abilities. He does not cook, never makes her lunch and she doesnt like to sleep with him. I wish he would just disappear.
