Can one ever reconcile from this?

Together for 22 years and married for 18. In February 2025, I learned that the infidelity was ongoing for 13 years. Seeking casual encounters at bars and transactional arrangements via seekingcom. These arrangements typically lasted 6–12 months each, with new partners after each period, and included some overnight stays.

There was a pause during the Covid pandemic, but the behavior resumed and, in the past two years, he has alternated between two partners.

We have two kids 14 and 9 years old.

I am still processing the full extent of the betrayal and its impact on my health, trust, and sense of reality. I am seeking help to understand and cope with these events.

There has been profuse apologies and we are in therapy where he was able to dismantle his rationalizations and show some really accountability but my heart is so broken I feel like I’m numb.

10 comments posted: Tuesday, May 13th, 2025

Anyone have similar story? Did you find the strength to reconcile?

Together for 22 years and married for 18. In February 2015, I learned that the infidelity was ongoing for 13 years. Seeking casual encounters at bars and transactional arrangements via seekingcom. These arrangements typically lasted 6–12 months each, with new partners after each period, and included some overnight stays.

There was a pause during the Covid pandemic, but the behavior resumed and, in the past two years, he has alternated between two partners.

We have two kids 14 and 9 years old.

I am still processing the full extent of the betrayal and its impact on my health, trust, and sense of reality. I am seeking help to understand and cope with these events.

There has been profuse apologies and we are in therapy where he was able to dismantle his rationalizations and show some really accountability but my heart is so broken I feel like I’m numb.

1 comment posted: Monday, May 12th, 2025