SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 12:02 AM on Thursday, August 28th, 2025
My WH and are working towards reconciling after a porn issue and summer of escorts. We have been working hard for 2 yrs…..he is doing good work but it’s a slow process. Lately, he has been overly attentive to me. I feel like he is oogling me when I workout or by the pool. It’s nice to feel attractive to my husband but the constant comments, looks and touching is honestly making me feel creeped out. Could he have replaced porn with….me? Does this happen? It’s feels awful and I’ve spoken to him about it and he says he’s working on it with his therapist. Am I being ridiculous? 🤦♀️
Formerpeopleperson ( member #85478) posted at 1:02 AM on Thursday, August 28th, 2025
I ogle my wife. I try not to get caught. What I’m thinking is probably TMI.
Porn might be a substitute for my wife; my wife is not a substitute for porn.
It’s never too late to live happily ever after
Unhinged ( member #47977) posted at 1:43 AM on Thursday, August 28th, 2025
What's "creepy" about it?
Married 2005
D-Day April, 2015
Divorced May, 2022
"The Universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button." -Brene Brown
SatyaMom (original poster member #83919) posted at 1:34 PM on Thursday, August 28th, 2025
What's "creepy" about it?[quote
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I don’t need constant comments about my body about what a great butt I have looks across the room, etc.. Yes we can have a loving relationship and it’s nice that my husband finds me attractive, but it’s excessive and it’s making me uncomfortable. I work out and take care of myself for me. I wear what I want. It’s for me. It’s not for him.
crazyblindsided ( member #35215) posted at 6:27 PM on Thursday, August 28th, 2025
It's probably because it's different after infidelity. I became repulsed by my xWS after his A's. It actually started before I discovered them because he was doing things to me that I knew were different that he was doing with his AP's (unbeknownst to me) my body picked up on it though. After all the A discoveries it was game over my body completely rejected him. Some people can come back from this and some of us can't. My current boyfriend does all of those things and I love it probably because he has not betrayed me in that way. I couldn't stand it coming from my xWS and I found his ooogling creepy.
[This message edited by crazyblindsided at 6:27 PM, Thursday, August 28th]
fBS/fWS(me):52 Mad-hattered after DD (2008)
XWS:55 Serial Cheater, Diagnosed NPD
DD(22) DS(19)
XWS cheated the entire M spanning 19 years
Discovered D-Days 2006,2008,2012, False R 2014
Separated 9/2019; Divorced 8/2024
